A lot of things confuse men when it comes to having sex with a woman. If you look at the most common pattern of sexual intercourse today, oral sex is usually a given. The assumption is that all girls are willing to give their partners blow jobs, but that is absolutely not the case. A lot of women do not want to give their partners a blow job. Their reason should not be an issue for anyone.

See our Best of Detroit winners. I found your column after a Google search. I saw your email address at the bottom and was hoping for some insight. My issue is this: Two years into our year marriage, my wife declared that she didn't want to kiss me or perform oral on me. Several years ago, she had an affair and confessed that she not only kissed this other person but performed oral on them as well.

I was torturing myself with this because I wanted to be a good girlfriend, but it would take him 45 minutes to cum and then my jaw would be sore all the next day. Neither of us do oral. I have no interest in this.